Many people are facing a lot of changes in their lives at present. Some of these changes are occurring just because we are shifting into a new way of living. This often prompts changes in our relationships, finances, life direction, health, and so on. With every change comes a challenge, even if the change is welcomed.
Coping with Change
Many people say they welcome change and want something new in their lives, but when they are actually faced with change, it becomes a different matter. I know this sounds strange, but many people associate the idea of change as something negative. Some people resist change because even the idea of change is frightening. Many prefer the security of knowing that tomorrow will be exactly like today, even if today was not great. Some people do not even want to know what their future will hold, even if it will be better, because that would involve change. We are all creatures of habit and often like our old comfortable pair of slippers rather than new ones.
Many people are afraid of change because they do not trust in their own ability to cope with change. Change sometimes forces us to dig deep into our own resources and discover we are more flexible and capable that we believed. Unfortunately, we can only come to this conclusion after we have gone through a change and realized we not only managed to survive but even to thrive.
So we need to ask what is it about change, we find so difficult. Do we not want others to notice our short comings? Are we afraid to challenge ourselves and find ourselves lacking? Do changes in our relationships, careers, etc. bring up fears we will not be loved or successful? Are we afraid to face challenges because of our fear of failure? Do we believe we will not be able to fulfill our expectations or those of others?
When we keep these fears and concerns are in the forefront of our minds, we do not focus on our strengths and past accomplishments. We continue to look upon up coming changes as mountains standing in our way instead of little bumps in the road that we can easily surmount.
To acknowledge how many successes you have already under your belt, make a list of your attributes and accomplishments. Do not tell yourself that small successes or accomplishments were not that important. Every success is important because it is the structure on which we build our self esteem and confidence. Focusing on our fears and obstacles only serves to erode our confidence.
In facing the challenges of life, it is good to have a support system. When people try to climb Mount Everest, they never go alone. They always have a team with them. When we go through changes, whatever their nature, we need a support team to encourage us when we feel down, provide guidance, or just be there to listen. You can call upon family and friends, but if they are not available or willing, reach out beyond your family and friends to others who may have gone through similar challenges.
I am sure your first question is where will you find such people? You can try making friends online, you can look for support groups filled with people who have faced similar challenges to yours either online or in your local community. Believe me when I tell you that you are not the first or only person to go through whatever you are facing, be it divorce, a medical emergency, a financial loss, a job loss or a death of a loved one.
Whatever your personal challenge, rest assured others have been there before you. We teach best what we learnt best, so the best support teams often come from people who have walked through fire, and are now willing to share what they learnt with others. This is why I suggest you reach out to these people.
If the changes you face are not due to a crisis, but are more of the garden type variety, it is still good to have a support team or people with whom you can share your concerns. Ask friends and family if they would be willing to listen to you out of their love for you. They do not need to offer advice or do anything but listen. Active listening allows you to put your fears and concerns into words so that you can examine them and realize they are not as daunting as you thought.
Every change or challenge provides us with learning opportunities. We incarnate to learn from our experiences. We are allowed to make mistakes because we are human. If you feel you have had more than your share of challenges in your life, then you must have signed up for the fast track learning program in heaven before you came.
If you feel like a victim or overwhelmed by changes in your life, remember we are never given more than we can cope with. We just failed to realize how deep our resources go. We set challenges for ourselves to discover our greatest strengths. There are no victims, only people who give up on themselves or refuse to see themselves for who they truly are, powerful beings.
The important thing about discovering our strengths is that when the next challenge comes along, we can tell ourselves that if we managed to get through the previous challenges, we can certainly get through the current one. That is why taking a life inventory of your successes is so very important.
It is okay to ask people for help. This is not a sign of weakness but intelligence. If I do not know how to do something, I would ask someone who knows. This does not make me stupid or weak. It is just one way to solve a problem. You should not expect yourself to know everything and have all the answers. That is why they write those How To books, have Ask Jeeves and Wikipedia on the Internet, and people to help you. If you prefer to feel like a victim because you are afraid to reach out for help or take advantage of these resources, then that is just being silly. God gave us a voice to speak out and ask for help. If He did not want us to do that, we would all be mute. So please use your God given resources to get the help you need.
Often help may come from a source you never expected so please be open when you pray for help and do not pre determine who it should come from. When you do that you limit your receiving. It also is an indication of your lack of trust that God will provide, albeit in mysterious ways at times.
Facing changes in our lives requires support, trust and self confidence. If I can be of any help, please feel free to contact me. I am available for personal, telephone and webcam readings, empowerment coaching, regressions, and healing either by responding to this newsletter or calling me at 505 474 6363 or 514 312 2451.
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